Life missing my forever baby Julian

This is a blog to voice my feelings and thoughts surrounding the death of my precious baby Julian. My twin pregnancy ended tragically with a catastrophic placental abruption. At 35 weeks my two sweet babies were born, and 36 hours later, one of my twin boys died in my arms. Now I have to figure out how life will continue with our surviving twin son and our 2 year old daughter.

Sunday, October 21, 2012

It is going to be slow for a few days

Things are going to be slow for the next few days. I will be staying at my parent's place with VERY slow internet, so my Capture Your Grief submissions may be on hold until after Friday.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

CAPTURE YOUR GRIEF 2012: Day 18 Family Portrait


Our family. We are all there, all 5 of us. Our daughter is holding Julian's Bear - this is our first picture with everyone. It makes me happy and sad at the same time.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

CAPTURE YOUR GRIEF 2012: Day 17 Anniversary/Birthday/Due Dates

We aren't there yet. We have not hit the one year mark. I think about what the day will be like all the time. Celebrating the first birthday of one son, while mourning the loss of another on the same day.

The only date we have hit so far was the due date, but now looking back on it, the day just passed us by. We actually held our daughters 2nd birthday party. I do remember  thinking today was the due date, but I don't think I really held much significance in the date of February 17th, as I knew I would never actually make it to that date.


January 12th and 13th will be the next big dates. I can't say I am looking forward to them, which makes me sad for our poor Jean-Luc.

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

CAPTURE YOUR GRIEF 2012: Day 16 Release


Yesterday, on Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day we released 3 balloons for our dear Julian. It was very special for our family as it was the first time we have done something "physical" to commemorate Julian as a family.

CAPTURE YOUR GRIEF 2012: Day 15 Wave of Light


Yesterday we lit our candle for Julian, and we lit a candle for all the other babies gone too soon. I posted our intentions to participate in the Wave of Light on Facebook yesterday and invited friends and family to join us in lighting a candle if they liked - and I was blown away by the number of candles lit for my sweet boy. Thank you everyone who thought of our son and all the other babies and their families.

Monday, October 15, 2012

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. It is a day of remembrance for all babies who have died too soon, from early pregnancy loss thru infant death.

Today I remember my son Julian, and I remember and think of all the other babies gone too soon. Today we plan on releasing a few balloons for our dear Julian. It is an important day for me and my family. We also have a special candle picked out for out sweet boy, the plan is to light it at 7pm tonight and join the wave of light. 



Sunday, October 14, 2012

CAPTURE YOUR GRIEF 2012: Day 14 Community



There are many things about this community that I am thankful for. All I can say is a heartfelt thank you to all the members who have shared, lent an ear, a supportive word or offered a thoughtful suggestion.